Very little about divorce is positive but in the best-case scenario of divorce, both spouses reach agreements on major aspects of a Colorado divorce such as child custody, the fair division of assets, and spousal support. Reaching a divorce settlement agreement for a judge to sign into binding orders prevents the need for an expensive and adversarial divorce trial. Many divorcing spouses use mediation to achieve this goal. But is divorce mediation always recommended or are there times when spouses shouldn’t attend mediation?
A professional mediator is a neutral third party who offers creative solutions for resolving disputes, allowing spouses to avoid a trial. Both spouses and their divorce attorneys meet in a safe space with a professional mediator. The mediator has an in-depth understanding of the state’s requirements for child custody, child support, and the fair and equitable division of marital assets. A mediator helps facilitate communication and compromise between spouses to resolve disputes so they can present a signed agreement to the judge who issues their divorce decree. Between 50-80% of mediation sessions end with an agreement.
Mediation is recommended for most divorcing spouses. A judge may order spouses to attend mediation at any time before their court date or during a trial if they think the spouses can reach an agreement. Still, there are times when a Fort Collins divorce attorney may recommend that a divorcing client not attend a mediation session with their spouse, including for one or more of the examples below:
Advice from a professional mediator does not help resolve disputes between uncommunicative spouses who are not open to reasonable negotiation.
Most spouses who don’t attend mediation because it isn’t appropriate for their circumstances go to court for a litigated divorce where each side presents their arguments and evidence to the judge. Another alternative is for spouses to attend arbitration rather than litigation. This helps to keep their divorce private, since a divorce trial becomes public record, while arbitration remains private. Arbitration is much like a divorce trial, often with a professional arbitrator—often an ex-judge or highly experienced divorce attorney—presiding. Both spouses must agree to abide by the arbitrator’s decisions.